Age Gap in Relationships || Our experience

  • Published on:  1/29/2019
  • Are you currently in love with someone a little (or a lot) older or younger than you? Have you had an attraction for someone outside of your age group? Have you been judged (or have you judged yourself) for wanting to deepen your relationship with someone and you have an age gap? Don't worry, we've got a video for that ;) Here we share our personal experience and reflections on the age gap question. Our underlying theme of this video is about emotional maturity which sometimes correlates with age and sometimes does not. Life experiences that lend to emotional and mental maturation tend to happen the longer we live but not always and not all life experiences are integrated and allow us to grow and "level up". For the purposes of being excessively clear in order to avoid any confusion, we are discussing relationships between consenting adults of a legal age to engage in the acts they choose with one another. Duh, right? But sometimes we find these things can't be overly-stated. If you are in the midst of an age gap relationship or experience of some kind, we would LOVE to hear from you in the comments. Thank you so much for your compassionate communication. Much love and see you next time!*NEW RELEASE* ACCESS THE PREGNANCY PHOTO GALLERY! & FAMILY CHANNEL: A MEMBER: get access to videos featuring raw processing, tools for self growth, and a more in-depth behind-the-sceens look into our relationship. We also offer monthly exercises, discounts, access to purchasable sex ed videos, photo galleries, and more!SEX EDUCATION: sex ed up close and personal with Conor + BrittanyCREATING EPIC RELATIONSHIPS: your life, your relationship with yourself, your Check out our program! OUR PREGNANCY AND BIRTH Q&A and RESOURCES: BRITT'S PREGNANCY PODCAST: PRODUCTS: INSTAGRAM: INSTA: INSTA: FAN PAGE: COMMUNITY: Authentic Relationships Facebook Community Here: WEBSITE: this channel we come together to share about our relationship with one another and the relationships we share with others. We love relating with all kinds of people, having non-traditional connections and sharing our experiences with the world. Some themes on this channel are sex education, compassionate communication, playfulness, authentic "no labels" relationships, freedom, love, and empowering viewers to tap into and follow what feels right for them. We feel excited and inspired by the way we connect with the world and live our lives. We hope to inspire you to create your own unique, authentic connections and ultimately, to live the life of your dreams. If you are interested in polyamory, open relationships, non-monogamy, and non-traditional relationships...or if you are interested in monogamy, deepening your connection with your partner and in general pursuing more authentic connections both with yourself and others, we think you will find value here.Connect with us on our individual sites and channels here:Brittany's Website:'s Website: Taylor's YouTube Channel: McMillen's YouTube Channel:


  • Nick Nackles
    Nick Nackles 6 months ago+70

    🚨 Woah, guys- a minor sexually involved with a legal adult is not fair game or a shame in its difficulty to navigate. Another person here commented on how the word "mature" was used to exploit her sexually, and it was for me too. It's incredibly common verbage to groom kids for abuse actually. So, I hope you arent suggesting a 14 or 15 year old is in any way capable of consenting to a sexual relationship with either of you. Please do explain exactly wtf you meant by navigating a sexual relationship with an underage person bc that is sincerely a bright red flag not all is safe and consensual here

  • Lea Knakkergaard
    Lea Knakkergaard 6 months ago+104

    As a survivor, "mature" is a trigger word for me. It was used by adults to manipulate me into believing that they were allowed to treat me like an adult. I was taken advantage of sexually. One of the people who did so is in jail now. As he should, because a 13 year old is a child. A 14, 15, 16, 17 year old is a child. A 16 year old can also be smart, capable, complex, funny, intelligent, insightful, wise, interesting, but it's also a child.
    Also. Consider the word mature. In Danish the word is "moden" which also means ripe. For what? Mature is a hint towards someone being mature enough to procreate or have sex. To say someone is mature for their age is to say they are sounding like someone (almost) ready for sex despite their (young) age.
    Think about it. The more you really think about the meaning of the word "mature" the more icky and yucky it gets.

  • Buzz Law
    Buzz Law 6 months ago+18

    I just find it strange that we're supposed to think that it's only a windows of sexual interest that closes at 30 for women. I see it like connor and find women don't get any less beautiful as they age. Furthermore beauty is the whole package. The stuff that comes out of a perfect persons mouth can make them hideous to me

  • Rachel Zehnder
    Rachel Zehnder 6 months ago+14

    Brittany, your facial expressions hold so much emotion and gosh I love to watch it.

  • Jessica Kyle
    Jessica Kyle 1 months ago+1

    I’ve been following you guys for so long, and yet have only just come across this video- I must have missed it somehow!
    Just wanted to say this was wonderful to watch! I’m 28 and in a long term partnership with a woman who is 20 years older than I am, and it is the most wonderful experience for us both. I have always taken the stance that you two have expressed so beautifully in this video, yet it was so great and reassuring to hear you guys talk so openly about this topic. Thank you for this and thank you for sharing yourselves with us all so authentically. You’ve made me smile today and I feel super positive from the energy that you guys radiate.
    Sending you guys positive vibes right back. Much love 🥰❤️❤️❤️ xxxxxxx

  • michellej
    michellej 6 months ago+13

    The way you look at each other...the way you listen to each other...the connection you have...all I can say is WOW! 💖

  • TheBunny TheBird
    TheBunny TheBird 6 months ago+7

    LOVE this topic and I'm so glad you talked about this because for me (all throughout school since I was 12)I felt like I wasn't able to share this opinion with people. I always felt so open to people no matter their age but it's a very taboo subject even in the context of friendship and just being friends with someone older or younger.
    I remember an experience I had when I was in college, I brought my friend home to hang out in my room (I was 19, she was 24) and she had met my parents coming into the house, and as soon as she left the house my mom came up to me and started freaking out about her age (she thought my friend was 30 because she looked a lot older) and she made it very clear by her reaction that she didn't want me hanging around older people. It was kinda funny though because I had other friends in college who were in their 30s that she didn't know about. There really is no age limit when it comes to connecting with other humans. It seems very natural to me, and I hope more people can come around to this.
    Again, thank you for sharing about this topic, much love to you!

  • GratitudeRat
    GratitudeRat 6 months ago+7

    I just tried to like this video twice <3 My first experience of a real age-gap encounter was with a person 10 years older than me and I can still access the excitement I felt. He was actually my first exposure to polyamory as well. UGHGG you two are so gorgeous and I love hearing your voices and seeing your faces when I wake up! Sending Love to you three!

  • Zoëy the German Shepherd
    Zoëy the German Shepherd 6 months ago+11

    Last year I kind of dated someone 15 years older than I am. After a month we were like “it was fun! But there’s no real connection there”. This weekend I’m having a date with someone one year younger than me. Usually I tend to have the best sexual AND emotional connection with someone 3 to 5 years older than me. But we’ll see. ☺️ I’m 27 btw.

  • Home With Rene
    Home With Rene 1 months ago

    My husband is 15 years younger than me ; )

  • Kendraas Stories
    Kendraas Stories 1 months ago+1

    I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 32. My maturity is well beyond my years and honestly I would’ve never thought I’d date a man 13 years older than me but honestly it’s the best relationship I’ve been in and he’s amazing to me and I never really think about the age gap until a 3rd party brings it up.

  • Leah de Boer
    Leah de Boer 6 months ago+6

    I really love your message but I was wondering how you feel about safeguarding younger adults or teen who are more vulnerable? Thanks for all sending lots of love💓💚

  • Emily Luke
    Emily Luke  6 months ago+10

    How old are the two of you???

  • Nina Harald
    Nina Harald 6 months ago+2

    I'm really happy to see people like you. Feels very comforting, that there are people out there having the same mindset as I do, and I love it! Keep doing what you're doing. You're the best!

  • Lynsey Turner
    Lynsey Turner 6 months ago+11

    I appreciate so much how you two communicate. It’s such a breath of fresh air. Brittany, the way you look at Connie while he talks.. so sweet.
    The age old saying, age is just a number is 100% accurate in my world.
    30 years Connor, that’s beautiful!!!!

  • Alyssa
    Alyssa 6 months ago+2

    i have literally been told by friends to stay away from this one guy i liked because he was 3 years younger than me and i still regret that a little bit to be honest

  • beautynessme
    beautynessme 6 months ago+13

    I just want to ask your demographic. I am appreciative about Conor's comment at the beginning about ppl at or below 17 yrs old navigating relationships with people older than them and that being difficult, the sympathy there, and clarifying for us that that particular dynamic is not what you will be covering in this video, but then you go on to sharing how you both have been with people 16-10 years younger than you, and you're both around 34. So, bare with me, but if your demographic is typically younger or half and half or, what have you, then I think this topic is kind of .... idk, because if the person is of legal age does not mean they understand what this all entails, and predators bank on those individuals not having a fully formed mind and I am just afraid for people in those situations watching this video and this video legitimizing gap relationships without knowing all that comes in tow

  • Karin B
    Karin B 6 months ago+21

    Thank you for this. I’m 50, and I’m not sexually active and haven’t been for the better part of six, almost seven, years. There’s been an odd encounter here and there every couple of years. But it’s been a very quiet time for me of personal growth and healing, so a sexual life has been shelved for that time. I’ve been feeling too... old. And, I haven’t come into the sphere of anyone operating at the same frequency as I am, which is the more significant factor. I really want the high vibing experience with someone in range of where I’m at. (I hope that resonates.) It’s not being drawn to me at this time, which is totally cool, although I’m open to that changing. Anyway, all that to say “thank you” for the parts of this video that acknowledge it’s not the age of the person but the spirit and vibe of the person that matters. And it’s good to know there are people who are into women older than they are!! That’s encouraging to me and gives me hope that my physically intimate life might be revitalized and perhaps not with someone my own age. You two are always so wise and fair and open, and these are some of the things I love about you! Coming into your presence in videos is always a beautiful thing. 🙏🏼💓

  • Brandy
    Brandy 6 months ago+1

    Thank you so much!! I needed to hear this message today!💋

  • VioletsAreFeeling
    VioletsAreFeeling 6 months ago

    Thank you so much for making this video. I don’t want to go into it in the comments (I’ll just send an IG dm) but I’m experiencing deep feelings for someone much older than me right now and it feels so right. I think it’s so important to talk about this subject and you guys are so awesome for making this video! (And all of the others too!😊) love you both!!💕 (And jaja😄)